Sunday, March 25, 2018

Sunday, February 4, 2018



---To rehabilitate properly, I feel, is to be sure that folks have changed inside AND are now able to face themselves. That is to face oneself without using their addiction of choice BECAUSE that only serves to distract folks from facing what is really at the heart of the problem. They come into a healing setting and usually have the current malady taken care of. This is really just treatment of the symptom and are sent out to once again be victimized by what they cultivated a weakness for and sent them to the hospital in the first place. If one never gets to the-heart-of-the-matter…it honestly doesn’t amount to much, more than putting a bandage on cancer. It has to do with a lack of self-worth and self-esteem making folks so vulnerable to whatever takes the place of getting to know thyself. Getting to know thyself can be painful if you’ve spent a lot of time hurting others. For folks who basically have followed the Golden Rule, facing things are NOT as bad as that.


---It seems that many folks have NOT experienced much encouragement in their lives. It, actually, seems that many have been discouraged to achieve. They have been told that achievement is out-of-reach and not worth the effort involved. Besides, they don’t have what it takes. Mediocrity may be worth getting used to.

---We find that there is a need to increase self-esteem. We find, also, a need to increase Self-knowledge. Positive interaction with others makes this happen. Folks who find that they are low in both departments need good solid people in which to interact. The objective of this interaction is to let the folks know that they are ‘’good enough.’’ We want people to know that they are ‘’alright.’’ It is imperative for folks to know that it is ‘’okay’’ to be who they are. This can NOT be stressed enough to ensure that a change is to take place.

---Self-worth will increase through interaction of those who have value for the individual they are talking to. To ensure that one values the other, one must be sure that one values people in general (himself as well as others.) If one does this then he will automatically value others. He may or may NOT like everyone to be his best friend or whathaveyou, but he must be able to understand that ‘’All Beings Have Value.’’ If he doesn’t know this…one may find that he is not valuing his subject. That will delay the procedure.

---When one feels he is valued then he approaches life with a confidence that aids him in all he does. He finds that he is now concerned for the well-being of others and has a caring for things that happen. The quality of his life has certainly been enriched. With this upgrade to life, we hope that one is now able to think enough of himself and life as it is to say NO to whatever it is that has addicted him in the past…and mean it. Becoming addicted or readdicted has lost its’ appeal and now is unattractive and doesn’t have the same hold that it once did. To be free of whatever it is, is much more rewarding. He now makes better decisions.

Why It Behooves Folks To NOT Become Re-addicted!

---It behooves folks to NOT become re-addicted, because they are now on the road to discover oneself if they haven’t already. They are now on a path that is much preferable to what they were doing before – being addicted and searching for themselves. They feel much better. It is like day and night. To return to the old life doesn’t make much sense. They may rather help others to become non-addicted and they find that that aids in their own journey. Be Well.

Saturday, July 22, 2017



---An addiction term that means one has lost most of what he has. And, he is, probably, using more of the substance that he has gotten him/herself addicted to. And, there is a good chance that the addiction will probably cause his/her death. It is the epitome of a ‘damned if you do and damned if you don’t’ situation. One is nearing the point of either cleaning up the act or cashing it in. Something, usually, has to be done at this point.

---A Rock Bottom that I relate to is the one where one realizes that one is helpless to make any positive gain to the dilemma that one is involved with. And, one is well aware that pursuing the avenue one is on just makes things worse. All one can do is to either increase the amount of addictive substance to further pursue the elusory idea that using more of the substance will bring relief while in all actuality it is working to make things more unbearable. Or, one can finally admit one needs help. When this choice is presented, let's hope that he chooses to get help. (We ALL need help, at times. Why we have made such a problem out of making mistakes and asking for help, I do NOT know. Do we try to fool others into thinking we're perfect? Are we so fragile that if we are seen imperfect - we can't stand it?) 

---This is Terry Becker Story all over again. In the story, Terry was ready to cash it in. A bedsore she had got so out of hand that it would have been deadly. It needed attention. Over time and with the treating of the condition right, the healing takes place. Because of the way the universe is setup, the viriditas works and wounds/cuts will heal if allowed. The choice to work with the healing instead of her living life making things worse and opposing the healing has made a big difference. Improvements are made and the problem is lessening. Things increasingly get better. Reaching a ROCK BOTTOM has turned a tide.

---Rock Bottom is usually the condition where choice has become very limited if it exists at all. There is very little foundation as one is spiraling and one is just usually hunting for the substance of his addiction to deal with the way his life has become. Ones life has come down to a certain hellishness that provides only short-term relief when a now much larger amount of the substance is needed, scored. The substance runs his life and since one has burned most of the legal means to acquire money, out-and-out stealing has now become something new that he does. He is getting closer to living in ROCK BOTTOM and is beginning to realize that the shred of denial he is holding onto won't sustain his behavior any longer. 

---One has hit ROCK BOTTOM. We have now made the decision NOT to ANYMORE go along the route that only brings grief. One admits that he is helpless to the substance that he is using. Though the path is not always easy, it may get downright difficult. But, it pays dividends - eventually. You may have some really bad times in this and feel you can’t make it…but YOU CAN. One needs a better, more positive way of seeing the self. One begins to realize that he/she is good enough and can make it. Staying true to this newness is important + staying clean is especially important. These can be crucial times. Get HELP if it is needed. At present there is plenty of it. (The strange thing to all-of-this is that after one can truly rebuild. It is a process, but could be one of the most real adventures that one has ever been on. Life has now taken on a new quality. A part of you that was unconscious has now burned away. One has a first-hand knowledge of if things don't kill you, they can serve to make you stronger.) Be Well.

Thursday, February 16, 2017


---In the two-tier approach, we see that this talk is geared to tier 1...why we become addicted in the first place. The answer is that much of the time we feel DISCONNECTED...until we get this worked out or the connection is made that is more worthwhile than the addiction. This talk is a very, good talk to hear!

Monday, April 20, 2015


Going “cold turkey,” or going completely without an addictive substance can seem like a terrifying idea for many people with substance dependence. Still, the practice of abstinence is often a key component of a drug or alcohol treatment program and is a cornerstone of traditional 12 Step programs for recovery. Experts continue to debate whether abstinence is possible or even helpful for everyone, and to compare abstinence with gradual reductions of controlled substances for the overall goal of recovery.

The methods for achieving abstinence can vary from person to person, but typically hinge upon removing the source of temptation. This will require a large degree of willpower and the willingness to decline a substance, like an alcoholic drink or a cigarette, even in social settings where others are taking part.

Abstinence can also involve replacing one harmful activity for a helpful one, like replacing smoking with exercise. People working toward abstinence may also have to take very close look at the sources of stress in their lives, and how to remedy those situations before they are tempted to return to the addictive substance as a coping mechanism. In some cases, this could mean establishing an entirely new social circle – a step not all addicts are willing to take.

As an alternative to abstinence, some substance abuse professionals recommend a process called harm reduction. For example, methadone can be administered on a careful schedule under a doctor’s supervision to people recovering from prescription pain medications. Also called gradual reduction, a moderate amount of the addictive substance may be allowed to stabilize the patient and help them take preliminary recovery steps.

In terms of alcoholism, a New York Times article states that moderate use therapy resulted in positive outcomes in clinical trials for nearly 75 percent of alcoholics out of a study group of 1,400. Still, many families of people addicted to substances, as well as people working through recovery themselves, say the moderate use approach may open the door to new destructive addictions.

Abstinence, too, can have its downfalls. A Harvard Medical study points out that for each person with an addiction, the addiction can assume a different level of role and importance in their lives. This makes abstinence seem too risky to some, or a goal that can never be attained for a long period.

Furthermore, University of Washington researchers explain that some counselors will not treat patients until they first reach a point of abstinence, but the patient’s emotional state may be problematic enough that they cannot give up their dependence without professional help.

Contrary to popular understanding, abstinence can mean giving an addict new options for coping – a process that could involve gradually removing the substance at first. For Noreen Oliver, a successfully recovering alcoholic and now globally-recognized authority on abstinence and addiction, the first step in recovery is to bring order to the disorganization and chaos of addiction. For some, Oliver says, this may not mean abstinence right away, but could instead mean giving a prescribed drug to get someone started on recovery.

Whether it means gradual reduction of a substance, or total abstinence, experts do seem to agree that a strong support network must be in place to guide a loved one to recovery from substance abuse.
Drug Addiction is a Progressive & Deadly disease. Get Help Now!

Sunday, January 25, 2015



Rock Bottom
A Good Place To Be
NOT Always Fun

Rock Bottom
Strikes Fear in the Hearts of many,

Down, down, down, down, down, down, down
Spiraling, Frightened, Out-of-Control,
I Hope I Bottom Out Soon

Rock Bottom
Don’t Do Yourself In,
In The Process!

Rock Bottom
Avoiding, But Inevitable…I’m Goin’ In,

Rock Bottom
Freedom…With NOTHING Left To Lose
I Should Have Come Here Sooner

Rock Bottom
NOT a Bad Place To Be
Everything Looks Up To Me

Rock Bottom
The Pause That Refreshes
If You Do It Right!

Rock Bottom
Over Time, More Comfortable

Rock Bottom
NOT A Bad Place To Be
A NEW Beginning!

Sunday, January 11, 2015

ADDICTION: A Two-Tiered Approach

The Two-Tiered Approach
---I was talking to a Zen Volunteer the other day and we spoke of the recent move at Laguna Honda Hospital. LHH is now a smoke-free campus. Since the main focus of the Zen Volunteers is the hospice…he was speaking of the fairness of people at the end of life to be asked to endure the rigorous task of giving up smoking…while they are here. Some have been smoking for twenty-thirty-or-forty years.

---I have noticed that people have many different opinions on the subject. Some say it is cruel. Some say it’s good enough for them. Folks fall somewhere on the spectrum between FAIR and UNFAIR. I’ve noticed many heart strings are pulled all over the place while searching out a place to land.

---I’d like to take a little different approach to the whole thing. I would like to speak about ADDICTION…itself.

---I see addiction as usually a two-tiered problem. We have the substance one discovers he is addicted to…and we have ‘’why folks become ADDICTED in the first place.’’

---Second tier - We will look at the substance one becomes addicted. These are usually drugs, alcohol, food, sex, going to school, etc. in other words, ‘’anything that this being is able to get lost in…that is a replacement for his facing himself.’’

---First tier - Facing himself (more intimate.)

---The MAIN REASON that people become addicted is to avoid facing who they, themselves…really are. Folks become addicted to something to avoid facing themselves.

For some reason we find ‘’facing ourselves-as we really are’’ a very difficult thing to do. I did and it is pretty obvious that everyone else does…also.
---NO matter where one falls on the issue of smoking and/or not smoking…One has to see it as a symptom of the problem and NOT the real problem. The substance is the ‘tool’ used. BUT…it usually becomes the subject of importance with ones relationship to it coming into question.

---The real issue is ALWAYS the deeper question of ‘’Who Am I?’’ and questions along those lines.

---My hand and relationship to it caused me to face these questions. I’m sure that others who felt themselves to be a serious DEFECT and hence have to face themselves or, basically, die…can attest to the fact, ALSO. There is a ‘’light at the end of this tunnel.’’ It may NOT always be fun and/or easy…but, well-worth any pain or uncomfortableness one may endure. Be Well.